It is just part of parenting teens, especially teens with special needs to feel shut out, unheard and worthless as a parent, right? This is not the case. Most children (remember, teens are still kids) need a firm parental hand on their shoulder. While most of the time they will and do make good decisions based on what you have taught them through the years, there are those other times that they will struggle endlessly with peer pressure. The first thing that you need to do as a parent is to take a step back, think about your next plan of action and then make your move.
Take a Step Back
Parenting teens is no easy task and to put it quite bluntly, not for cowards. The first thing that you need to do, no matter how angry you are, is to take a small step back and realize what is really happening with your teen. You need to pinpoint this moment in time in their life and and try to put yourself in their shoes, for a moment. They are facing peer pressure, constant rejection from friends, social media followers(or no followers at all) and are usually struggling with their self image. They are under a lot of stress and frankly don’t need your stress or handling of the situation added to it.Early Black Friday Deal! Get 70% Off ThinkPad T490S Laptop 20NXS2U500 with Intel i7, 16GB Memory, 512GB SSD, Now $999.99!
Make Your Move
No matter what you see when you take your step back; you need to react to it. If you are thinking that you do not need to worry about your child because they will make the right choices, you are welcoming their pain. Instead, you need to pull them aside when they are having trouble and talk to them in a frank yet understanding way. For example, if you suspect that your child is doing drugs, sit down with them, tell them what you think is happening and offer to help them to get them back on track. No accusations, no pressure, just you being a parent.
Realize that all children make mistakes, even teens. The mistakes teens make are just bigger and more life threatening than those that toddlers make. Yet, parenting teens means being a parent to them. Realize what is happening to your child. Realize what you need to do about it. Forgive them for making the mistake and help them to get out of it. You will need to do this type of parenting for as long as you have teens.